The Sometimes Unspoken…..

Words of another single full time working, student & parent

Day 5 ~ Chillie de Miester

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It is very chilly outside. The frost is out on the ground, covering the cars and dancing on some of the house windows in the neighborhood. I dare say that it is almost as cold as it was last night. My hands feel the sting, my cheeks are rosy and my face is giving me the tingly.

However, I am not sore. I started the walk and I could certainly feel it. That first fifteen seconds my legs scream out “Noooooo! Not again!” But I continue on. I push through it and tune into the music or watch my Pom as she prance walks. Her tail is happily raised as she dance walks by my side.

I am starting to feel better. There is more energy to last me through the day. When I am tired, I am tired. I can’t fake another half hour out of me like I could before. I also have started having this huge appetite. It has been a while since I felt hunger like that. When I want to eat, I want to eat!! No pretending it away.

This mornings workout play list:




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Written by neomav

November 24, 2011 at 7:19 am

Day 4 ~ Powa Walk

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Here we are on day four!  Yes!  I did something besides go to work or school for four days in a row.  That has to be a record.  I just has to!!!

I took a jump on the scale…out of curiosity.  When I started the power walks I weighed in at 145 pounds with a little points extra.  Today it is at 143.  Not a lot of weight, but honestly, I was not expecting anything at all.  Interesting and encouraging!!!

Tonight’s power walk was very cold!! However, we endured with the following play list:

 



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November 23, 2011 at 10:32 pm

Day 3 ~ Get Up & Move It Move It

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I went to bed early last night. Let’s rephrase that! Early for me. It was about 10:30 pm. My school schedule has me up until about midnight on average. The thing is, I was tired. I was nodding off in front of the laptop trying to read and my body was winning that battle. I called it quits and went to bed.

This morning, I did not want to get up. Yesterday my hips and the sides of my legs were sore. Today it is still sore, but now I feel it in my shins and calves. (No, its not shin splints). I managed to get myself going, dressed and grabbed my puppy for a round of power walking. This time we added the loops of two side streets that just circle around like overgrown driveways.

The workout playlist for today is:




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November 22, 2011 at 8:12 am

Day 2 – Get Up & Move

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This morning it took me a little bit to want to get up and move.  The last teen out the door, I whipped on my work out clothing, grabbed my Pomeranian and off we went to the morning walk.  My body is stiff along the hips and the side of my legs.  Power walking really can be exhausting.  It is not your leisurely everyday walk outside.

This mornings workout music:

 



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November 21, 2011 at 8:12 am

The Morning Workout and a Year Challenge

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I have been reading a book called Brain Rules, which I believe I mentioned in my previous blog.  I am only through the first chapter, however, I am not waiting to obtain benefits from activity and its affects on my brain and cognition.  The fitness aspects and disease prevention are areas that I have awareness.  Once upon a time I used to be a personal trainer.  The news that is causing me to move is the fact that activity has an affect on our brains and cognitive power.  It is possible to improve our memory skills by being active.  The book stated that it can decrease your likelihood to getting Alzheimer by as much as 60%.  Coming from a family that has suffered this awful disease, I am all in!

So here is Day 1 of a new year challenge.  I want to have at least 30 minutes a day of aerobic based activity.

This morning’s workout was a fast paced power walk with my little Pomeranian and my daughter.  My youngest decided she would run a lap with the dog and catch me on a back loop.  It extends her workout, lets the dog stretch her legs for a bit of time and all three of us get some exercise.  We also improve our brain power ability.

This mornings workout songs are below:

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November 20, 2011 at 8:48 am

Sometimes it Takes a Moment….a Dance with Productivity

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I have been on a search the last six months to find productivity skill sets.  I know, many of my friends are reading this and rolling their eyes.  Not because they feel that I am lazy, but because they have accused me of being a chronic workaholic.  I will take on more than I should or that I am truly capable of doing.  I do that habitually.  Many of my friends would not accuse me of lacking or needing productivity skills.

It is almost like parenting to me.  I am a parent.  It is a huge part of my life, in fact, is my life.  I can not run away, hide or escape the role of being a parent.  That does not make me an expert at parenting.  I love to discover new tips and skill sets that I can stick in my tool box for use.  I constantly research parenting at different age ranges, but mostly for the ages of my children.  If something isn’t working, I need to find something that does.  As a parent, there is one choice and that is to deal with whatever issues and matters that present themselves to me.

The same is for productivity.  I do many things.  I have lots of projects going on besides work and school.  There are many demands on my time.  Productivity is important to me and though I may exercise skills in it daily, I honestly can do better.  I strive to do so.  It is not easy to have a job where everything is critical and an A priority.  Staying on the Dean’s list is not a simple task either.  Toss in a family life and things can get down right interesting if each has something critical going on at the same time.

A good example:  A child gets too ill to care for themselves, work has a critical project that has to be done that same day and there is an exam that you must take that night.  If you miss the exam it is a zero, there is usually no retakes.  The project has to be completed, there is no choice and the child has to be tended to.  Just a little stressful, but I am not complaining.  But it is days like that, it is good to have some tools in your tool belt that can help walk you through how to handle each situation.

There have been many books read while on this search.  The most recent that I have completed is Getting Things Done by David Allen.  This book was interesting and had many a tip that would make a productivity mongrel drool.  For what I have going on, the starting technique is not realistic.  I just can not take a day or two and go through everything, making piles and lists, calendaring, etc.  If I were an executive, that would be an option.  The reality is, Mr. Allen addresses and consults executives, therefore his approach is geared towards executives.

Yet, there are some cool things in this book.  I will be referring back to it over the next year as I get portions of it in to my habit zone.  Right now, I have grabbed my work email and created two main folders @Action and @WaitingFor.  @Action has sub folders that pertain to my job tasks.  Instead of having to search the hundreds of emails that need to have something done, I can group the tasks that I am working on and do them at the same time.  It has allowed me to get more done faster.  It also allows me to keep emails out of my Inbox, which has always stressed me out.  My old method was to simply let undone emails sit in my inbox and I would file them away as I completed the tasks they requested.  This is fine if you get fifteen or so a day.  I get hundreds a day.

Sometimes it just takes a moment to realize a times savings.  This technique alone has saved me approximately a full hour each day.  I am not searching for things and jumping from very different tasks.  Grouped tasks get done faster because your brain is already processing in that specific mode.  Every time you change the base task, it requires some study and processing time.

I am now currently digging through Boundaries and Brain Rules for additional techniques.  One for better abilities in dealing with others as they drain away time from my work day (known as the “J” time in the Administrative field) and the other for better abilities to learn, assimilate and process information faster.

I have even pulled a nugget from a recent interview.  I was invited to participate in a Doctorate students study for their dissertation regarding Veterans and their transitioning from the military to school.  We were given a web form of some basic questions to answer.  Some of my answers were on the snarky side.  That snarky is why she chose me as one of the veterans to interview.  While doing the interview and chit chatting, she had posed the question “How do you balance work, school and family?”  I had to think about it for a moment and I realized that I didn’t.  My response was, “I don’t balance them.  I do not even try to balance them.  I do not plan them out.  I do notate events and things on my calendar that are important because I have to deal with them in some fashion, but the reality is…..some days there is no way to balance everything.  It is like labor.  At that moment, the baby is coming.  It does not matter what is going on in other segments of life.  The baby is coming and coming now.  You deal with it.  I deal with each thing as it comes because many aspects to work, school and family simply are unplanned, unexpected and quite frankly have very good (or bad) timing.  You just have to take it in the moment and run with it.”

Sometimes it just takes a moment.  In a moment life is changed.  No matter how productive, how many skill sets we have or don’t have, what position we are in or where we are, life happens.  Our brains do not multi task.  It is a proven fact.  This is why talking on the phone while driving does not work well.  Sometimes it takes a moment and our focus is changed and in that we have a dance with productivity.  We have to just go with it.  The best laid plans are disrupted, the calendar changed and we are dealing with the labor of a new baby arriving in the moment.

 

 

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November 19, 2011 at 11:16 pm

Running in a Closet

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There are days where I feel like I am running in a closet.  A closed in, suffocated, endless run in the darkness.  It is stiff ling and feels like it leads no where.  Actually, it does not lead anywhere at all.  Its a long run in a closet!

This feeling comes when I find myself hiding within.  Rather then share what I am thinking, what the goals I have are or even in some cases who I am, I hide.  I am an expert at this.  I can hide right in front of people and avoid being seen.  Good ole army training!

Seriously, I notice that I am hiding myself and have to at points wonder why.  I know that I hate being criticized tremendously.  It takes a huge toll on me personally.  In fact, I tend to internalize those types of things.  I know that is related to relationships in the past and truly, it is time to let those things go.

I work hard at trying not to take that long run in the closet.  Some days its just harder than others.  It makes me daydream for old friends, that never let me near the closet door.  One such friend had an oxygen addiction.  Anytime we were outside she was the giddiest person I had ever known.  We could make anything pleasurable.  I think the two of us together were just so strong willed and determined that we reinforced the positiveness of life.  Even if we did not want it.

I think back to those experiences and usually it is enough to get me out of the closet.  Yet, lately, I think the closet is not so bad if I just stand.  Boring!  Standing is boring!  I want to move.  I want to run.  I want to do things and to share.

So what to do when you find yourself running in the closet…..?

Simple open the door and head for the light.  Share something quick.  Even a small thing.  Dare to daydream about where you want to be.  It does not have to be realistic, just dream it.

Write it down and look for the points.  Why do I like this?  What is appealing about it?  Hidden within are keys that can gain you momentum outside of the closet.  Now you can have the run of a whole room!  Eventually, you can get outside and run amuck in the world.

The point is, start where you are at.  Start small.  Do not have the great expectations.  In fact, check expectations at the door on your way out.  Go beyond.  One small step at a time.  Rinse, wash and repeat!

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November 17, 2011 at 12:51 am

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